Wine Country Mom » Co-Parenting

The ghosts that haunt

WineCountry.Mom — Tue, 04 Jan 2011 19:36:17 +0000

Putting the kids first also means separating the anger felt towards an ex-husband from the fact that he is still the father of your children.

Dating as a Single Parent, Pt 1

WineCountry.Mom — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 19:35:23 +0000

“How did you find time to date as a single mom?” Mr. Wonderful asked me one evening as we took in the stars on his back porch. I love that we can have these kinds of conversations, understanding that there was life before the two of us became a couple. And it was a valid [...]

Teenagers: A Mom’s Lament

WineCountry.Mom — Sun, 16 Aug 2009 19:32:39 +0000

A mom was lamenting to me about her 13 year old son. He used to be such a nice kid – totally respectable and responsible, and extremely trustworthy. But things changed in the last year. His parents got divorced, surely a huge shock to his world. And with the divorce came a lot of changes. [...]

What if the other parent won’t cooperate?

WineCountry.Mom — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 01:42:22 +0000

"I’ve tried to put aside my differences with her. Granted, she has more to be mad at me about the marriage ending, but shouldn’t she stop with the vengeance by now?"

When Co-Parenting Works

WineCountry.Mom — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 07:40:05 +0000

When I was first getting a divorce, it was both of our intention that things be as friendly as possible. And at first, we were. We were polite and cordial to each other, having read all the books that said the same thing over and over: DO NOT BADMOUTH THE OTHER PARENT TO THE KIDS. Even the courts have a standardized speech that is given at the beginning of the session where the judge talks about parents who are wasting their time and money and the courts time over petty bullcrap that really results in hurt feelings that each party wants vindicated through stuff. And the only people getting hurt? The children. We were adamant that this would not be us.

When Co-Parenting Fails

WineCountry.Mom — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 05:36:31 +0000

I have a friend who has a 4 year old that was the product of a fling gone wrong. Upon finding out that she was pregnant she realized that he would not be a good father for her daughter, but that she wanted to go through with the pregnancy. She gave him the option of stepping out of her life, and never having to support this child one bit. In return, he was to agree to stay out of her child’s life as well. He took the offer and ran.