Comments on: Feeling Clingy http://winecountrymom.blogs.santarosamom.com/11240/feeling-clingy/ Doing the single parent thing since 2004. This is the story of us. Tue, 07 Feb 2012 01:59:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: WineCountry.Mom http://winecountrymom.blogs.santarosamom.com/11240/feeling-clingy/comment-page-1/#comment-4374 WineCountry.Mom Tue, 20 Sep 2011 21:01:28 +0000 http://winecountrymom.blogs.santarosamom.com/?p=11240#comment-4374 Don't worry, they do grow out of it!!! My son is 10 now and is much more secure in being away from me. Best thing you can do is to honor his feelings. Maybe encourage him to do day trips with his dad and spend the night at your house? It might suck for your free time temporarily, but it will help him to trust more and eventually graduate to overnights again. It is possible it's an attention thing, but more than that he's probably trying to execute some control in a situation that is out of his control. Maybe if he sees he has some say-so, he'll be ok with staying with his dad again. Don’t worry, they do grow out of it!!! My son is 10 now and is much more secure in being away from me.

Best thing you can do is to honor his feelings. Maybe encourage him to do day trips with his dad and spend the night at your house? It might suck for your free time temporarily, but it will help him to trust more and eventually graduate to overnights again. It is possible it’s an attention thing, but more than that he’s probably trying to execute some control in a situation that is out of his control. Maybe if he sees he has some say-so, he’ll be ok with staying with his dad again.

]]> By: Ginny Shelton http://winecountrymom.blogs.santarosamom.com/11240/feeling-clingy/comment-page-1/#comment-4366 Ginny Shelton Thu, 15 Sep 2011 07:57:49 +0000 http://winecountrymom.blogs.santarosamom.com/?p=11240#comment-4366 OMG! I almost cried when I read this! My 8 year old son is going through this and I was so worried something was really wrong. I have 2 other older sons, who did not go through this, at least to any degree that I remember it. My husband and I have been separated for 7 years and are now divorcing. After telling our boys, the youngest(8) started refusing to go to dads house! Temper tantrums, tummy aches, hysterical crying, everything and he use to love going to dads house! Now he wants to sleep with me, he wants me to go with him in the other room (even if his brother is there), and he even wants me to stand by the open bathroom door when he goes at night. He use to be very outgoing with no fear, and now he seems so different. Now for a question: since he is refusing to go to dads do I make him? His dad thinks he is doing this for attention and wants me to just make him go. I am torn! Help! OMG! I almost cried when I read this! My 8 year old son is going through this and I was so worried something was really wrong. I have 2 other older sons, who did not go through this, at least to any degree that I remember it. My husband and I have been separated for 7 years and are now divorcing. After telling our boys, the youngest(8) started refusing to go to dads house! Temper tantrums, tummy aches, hysterical crying, everything and he use to love going to dads house! Now he wants to sleep with me, he wants me to go with him in the other room (even if his brother is there), and he even wants me to stand by the open bathroom door when he goes at night. He use to be very outgoing with no fear, and now he seems so different.
Now for a question: since he is refusing to go to dads do I make him? His dad thinks he is doing this for attention and wants me to just make him go. I am torn! Help!

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