What if the other parent won’t cooperate?
In response to When Co-Parenting Works, Matt wrote this:
“I’ve been divorced from my ex-wife for five years now. My sons are seven and five. In the beginning, my ex and I swore the same things the two of you did, and though I know for a fact I haven’t bad-mouthed their mother to them, my oldest son now comes to me and says “mommy says you broke up our family” and “she said you only wanted one kid.” I’m not sure what to do about this, other than light into her about it, but in conversations where I respectfully, rather than angrily, broach the subject, she denies saying such things, or asserts that she “didn’t say it that way.” Now, after promising that we would avoid courts and lawyers with respect to custody, currently 80/20, she now has no intention of giving me more custody without a court fight. My point is, I’ve tried to put aside my differences with her. Granted, she has more to be mad at me about the marriage ending, but shouldn’t she stop with the vengeance by now? Where do I go from here when I can’t afford lawyers and she has all the power and is using it in this way?”
So how about it people? How should Matt handle his and his ex-wife’s differences so he can move past this? Is there an answer to this riddle?
Single-parenting it since 2004.
Hi Matt, I know exactly how you feel. I was divorsed 5 years ago but I got 50,50 shared care of our then 4 year old daughter. But my X was far from happy, she apealead against the judges desion but gained nothing. Then 19th June 2008 she completly stopped me having access to our daughter, I have not seen her since. We have 2 days in court this August and I know I have a Mega battle and I may end up with supervised access!!!!! and I am trying to figure out why. There is no easy answer to a womans determination to destroy a man. Good Luck.
by Malc
In response to Malc: I’m sorry to hear that. All I can say is that to deny you access to your child, in light of a court ruling for 50/50 custody, is in basic violation of a court order. If you had wanted to, you could have reported her to the authorities and asked for their assistance in helping you gain access to your children. As it stand, I think you should be in good position to prevail in court.
by Matt The Bat