Comments on: Single Mom Dating

By: WineCountry.Mom

WineCountry.Mom — Fri, 21 May 2010 06:10:43 +0000

I could tell some doozies about the Peter Pans I dated. What was ridiculous was that I would be attracted to these guys that only wanted to play, and I would pretend that was my motive too. But truth be told, I wanted the knock my socks off, sweep me off my feet, and promise me forever kind of love. These guys weren’t going to give that to me. And the only reason I was even interested in them was the thrill that “maybe” I’d be the one to change their mind. Uh, yeah. Pretty clever right? Truth is, the right guy won’t be there if we’re searching for him. Let’s face it, sometimes our guy chooser is a little broken. But a funny thing happens when we stop looking. We start enjoying ourselves. We start being real with who we are. And we stop making decisions based on where we might meet someone or how attractive we should be to draw in the next Peter Pan. And that, my friend, is attractive. And it also has the chance of letting Mr. Right find YOU.

By: Debbie

Debbie — Fri, 21 May 2010 04:31:55 +0000

Yes! A site I can relate to. Long story short..was married 23 years, 3 kids. He cheated n then again. Broke my heart. Fixed it. Played single with young and my age. Was fun. I fell in love with a Peter Pan. Finally over that, but trying to date again, omg it sucks. I joined several dating sites.. not so good. I have been divorced 4 years, left him two years before that. Was hell. I have not brought any man into my home. One met my children on vacation.. he was Peter Pan. I am attractive and sexy… why is that all they see? I’ve given up for now. Can anyone tell me why?

By: American Girl

American Girl — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 06:32:06 +0000

I was browsing the web and your page caught my attention. I love your story. I always believe that love comes in all forms and sizes. Just be patient about it. Each and everyone on this world has a soul mate, be patient of waiting and searching. Keep an open heart always.

By: Greg Williams

Greg Williams — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 07:55:36 +0000

Love the story. I’ve been separated for a year now and haven’t that someone special yet, not sure if i’m ready yet ? Time will tell

By: Chris

Chris — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 20:50:43 +0000

I agree alot with what Dave says in his comment. I am in my early 40′s and had my heart stomped on a little over 2 years ago after being married for almost 10 years. Being a single parent I havent dated since but when I am looking at the age of a woman to date, I am not looking below the age of 30 or barley over the age that I am. I prefer someone close to my age, but then again, it all depends on the woman. Even the early 30′s seem scary to me thinking that they might split when they find greener grass. The whole dating again thing sucks! But remember, God has a plan and he is in control!!!

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 17:05:17 +0000

Great story! As a single mom who is starting to get back into the dating scene, I really appreciated your article. Many of your points hit home for me especially about the part where you write about wanting a support person in your life (ie boyfriend/relationship) to be there for just you!

One thing that is interesting is when guys try to impress you by going over the top showing you how good of a father they could be. One guy who I’m starting to date met me when I was with my daughter. He started to play with her but was doing so to impress me. My comments to him were you need to worry about impressing me first before my daughter.

What a strange place to be!!
Thank you again for your great stories.
Jennifer

By: Dave

Dave — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 15:48:32 +0000

I just turned 50 and have been divorced for 4 years. I don’t know what men in their 20′s or 30′s want but I disagree with this:

“And men in their 40’s want women in their 20’s.”

I don’t want a woman in her 20′s and I don’t think most other guys my age that want a serious relationship do either.

However, what I have found is women in their 40′s with children still want to be taken care of. They want a guy to love them but they aren’t so concerned with loving that guy. As long as he makes enough money and treats them well they will marry him. But when the kids are grown…..the woman finds out that something is missing and gets divorced.
I don’t know any man that has run from a relationship because of the kids…..It’s the woman and how she handles the relationship that scares men away.
Women really do need to do a better job showing men that they are appreciated and that doesn’t mean having sex.
Keep in mind when you meet a guy in his 40′s that he has had his heart ripped out as well. Why should he be in such a hurry to go through that again? Once a man gets divorced he becomes more critical of the women he dates than he was of the woman that divorced him. He knows what the red flags are.
I have found that I would rather date women in their 30′s that don’t want kids or women in their 50′s that have older kids and don’t want more. Women in their 50′s tend to be less bitter and more understanding of men.